What the what? Another decade just zipped right by me. I could have sworn Y2K was still a concern. I can't believe how fast 10 years goes by. I was just a teenager in the year 2000 (the future, Conan?) and at the end of the decade, I'm a married mother of 2. BOING. That just happened. I could write a thousand lists about what went down in the last 10 years, but I won't. Instead I will let you all know what's on my heart for this new year/new decade.
We just got back from a trip to Lake Havasu to visit our friends, The Bairds. Nichole and I were roommates in Bible College and have stayed connected. We both got married the same year, had our kids at the same time (Josiah and Micah are 12 days apart, Mae and Seth are 12 days apart), and basically enjoy each other's company. Her husband, Adam is a very laid-back guy who gets along with my laid-back guy, Cameron. Our kids are buds and look forward to whenever we get together. While I was at their house, I picked up Nichole's copy of Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller. I read that book in Bible College (it was actually Nichole's copy) and I felt like I had found a Christian book for me! Woohoo! Picking it up again, I realized that I hadn't really been reading very many Christian books. I'm not terribly fond of pink and floral designed book covers that are all about being the woman God made you to be. That's just not my type of reading. Chalk that up to my inability to properly use coasters or make crafts with silk flowers. Reading Blue Like Jazz made me yearn for a good Christian read. Reading that book 5 years ago made a huge difference in my walk with God. Now I know in this decade, I have to continue that growth. Obviously the only place to find real food is the Bible. I have been going every week to Harvest's Women Bible Study (there's a little bit of that lace and doily nonsense, but I deal with it to get to the meat and potatoes of God's word) and it's great to have weekly Bible homework that digs deep. I think that for me, a life-long Christian, you get this delusional idea that you know everything about God's word because you've been surrounded by it your whole life (FLANNEL GRAPHS TAUGHT ME EVERYTHING I KNOW ABOUT THE BIBLE). I am so very wrong in this thinking. I heard a couple of sermons about the book of Proverbs and the pursuit of wisdom. Not knowledge my friends, but wisdom. I want to ask questions of people about their hobbies, their spirituality, their families, their marriages, what good books they've read, etc. I'm going to stop assuming that I know everything about Jesus and live a life that is all about learning and knowing more. That's one of my New Decade resolutions. Chasing God the way He's chased me.
If there is a verse that haunts every Christian bride to be, it's Proverbs 31. I MUST BE MORE VALUABLE THAN RUBIES!! We sort of wear it like a banner or we fear it because we don't know if we live up to being a wife of noble character. This year I want to make it practical to be a wife of noble character. Maybe a little bit at a time I'll go through the verse and see what I can come up with in a very modern, every day way. Here's a few of my ideas for being a good wife worthy of the title (and priced high above rubies):
-Be Frugal. I think quite a few of us are on our way, but let's be wise with the money. ("She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar."- I saved money on grocery bill's yesterday by driving to three stores...) :)
- Be Generous. How do I teach my kids to give back? By being generous myself. The best time to give is when you feel like you don't have enough. Give your money, your time, your kid's toys that they don't need. Just GIVE. (She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.)
- Be Prepared. My friend Nichole that I spoke of earlier, is the most prepared person I know. She is intense. She is stocked up on everything that she needs in her house because she plans ahead. I really love that about her, she inspires me to not be last minute Leigh. (When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.)
-Be an encourager of your husband. When you first met your husband, weren't you his biggest fan? I know I was totally captain of the Cameron Cheer Squad. So what happened? Did the reality of it all make you leave the cheer squad? I would say to all of you wives: Squeeze back into that skirt and be a Cheerio again! Pardon my Glee reference. Trust me. It feels a lot better to talk well of him in front of friends and with girlfriends than to complain about him. :) (Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.)
-Be Funny. I enjoy a good sense of humor. Women- are you all listening??? Don't get caught up on "keeping sweet" and not having a good time. You will keep the rest of life in perspective if you have a good sense of humor about it. (she can laugh at the days to come.)
-Be a Mom. Relish your blessing. You were given a gift and a person to take care of by God. Make everyday count and don't sweat the small stuff. (Her children arise and call her blessed;)
Really, if you look at all of these concepts in Proverbs 31, they all tie together. To be frugal you must be prepared, to be generous, you must be frugal in other areas of your life. To encourage your husband you have to often have a sense of humor.
Alright kids... Happy New Year, Happy New Decade, I have stuff to do.
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